“Never Regret and Move On” – Purging Conscience
I used to think, as a boy that, whenever I saw,
read, or heard of cruelty from any human being
– schoolyard bullies, vandals, thieves;
rapists, murderers, paedophiles –
it was the frightening evidence of demons
who were making themselves visible
in the natural world.
Such were the thoughts of a little boy.
He is in a sorry state indeed, who cannot bear
to be laughed at, mocked, and ridiculed
by crude, vulgar and ignorant men.
A mature man or woman has merely
but to ‘Consider the Source’ and he or she
will find the mockery of profanity-spewing,
vicious men and women to be, in reality
… an Honour –
because for brutal individuals to mock anyone,
means that they place the person
who is the object of their malice,
at the opposite end of the human spectrum
And for vicious, ignorant individuals to do that,
is nothing less than the highest honour
that they can possibly bestow.
Of course, this does not mean that ignorance,
evil, and error are not to be publicly withstood –
by those who are capable of so doing.
It is important that those who possess
actual ability, at least make an attempt
to alert the simple-minded
who follow the majority without thinking,
in the hope that one or two might
recognise themselves as having
slipped into the conduct of the smirking,
the sneering, and the depraved.
Those who have a mind will try to help
those … who do not.
Those who have turned their minds off,
will say ‘Thank You’ … and turn them on again.
The bulk of humanity will be offended.
There has been lately, a mentality that proclaims
( to the effect that ):
“Never regret anything that has happened in the past:
you cannot change it, so regard it as a lesson,
and ‘move on’ with your life.”
“Never Regret” … ?
It is nothing less than a psychopath’s mantra:
the doctrine of those who feel no remorse
and are affected to thoughtful consideration
by nothing that lies outside their own
ego or ambition.
There is an appalling plague that has infected
infantilised, modern masses, which proclaims that
“I cannot judge someone’s character
because I am not a ( heaven help us! )
IF there is anyone left on earth, under the age of, say, 50
– ( who actually POSSESSES a working mind
imbued with the ability to observe and consider ) –
DO what Mature and Responsible adults
have done for thousands of years, and
“judge the tree by the fruit that it bears”.
Those who are responsible for pain and misery
caused to others Should both … Regret
AND … Never Forget.
To glibly dismiss past selfishness or evil
is to prepare the way for a repetition of it.
Those who are possessed of a conscience,
WILL remember, and WILL regret … and
WILL make DETERMINED effort to change it.
In the age of Facebook and Internet social sites,
changing the pain of the past with a greeting
– if not an apology, is a fairly easy thing to attempt.
The past has present ( and future ) consequences
to people who have a conscience.
Those who have a moral conscience WILL
try to change the past – if they can.
I recall being asked by a student:
“Is there ever a time when it is
NOT right to apologise?”
And suggested that, Yes, I believe
that there are two occasions
when it is wrong to apologise …
One is in the situation of a bully:
when you have interfered in the life of a bully,
and stopped him from harassing or degrading
someone else; and – in being stopped,
he has suffered in some way as a result.
You may feel badly that your interference
caused that bully to have suffered consequences.
But you do Not apologise to a bully for that.
Malignant, unrepentant narcissists simply use
apologies to bolster their own vanity.
To apologise to a domineering tyrant,
is to rejuvenate his malicious nature;
to give him licence to think that He was the victim
– in a situation where he was abusing some one,
or some animal.
You do not fuel the malignant vanity
of those who habitually domineer others.
One breaks – not supports – the power
of a domineering tyrant.
The other, I had suggested, is that
you do not apologise when to do so,
would cause pain to someone who was
never aware that there was anything wrong.
A girl in school was routinely teased –
but you were always kind to her.
You were – SHE believed – her only friend.
But YOU recall the times when she was
not present: that people mocked her
… while you said nothing in her defence.
You do not let that woman know that
her one friend in school was
– when it truly mattered – an hypocrite.
You do not break her heart years later,
just to make your conscience feel better.
How much misery could be reduced in the world,
if every person could think of one time
when they let someone down; ridiculed someone;
made someone’s life miserable –
And Then made some type of EFFORT
to ‘make it right’ ?
Without offering extenuating excuses.
A thug, punk, and a bully knows full well
why they degraded someone:
It is because they knew (or were confidant that)
that person would not, or could not, ‘fight back’.
A genuine apology is Repentant:
it confesses All:
it does not make excuses;
it holds nothing back –
“I picked on you and I don’t know why”
… is NOT an apology.
It is salve for the stirrings of a guilty conscience
in a conceited human being.
“I picked on you because you were timid,
and I was an arrogant bully;
degrading you made me feel tough, and important –
and I am ashamed of myself for it.
I am so very sorry.”
… IS an apology.
There are sadists – dictionary definition Sadists –
who consider it ‘sport’ … fun … enjoyment …
to inflict terror, pain, and violent death
on an unsuspecting animal:
who feel like … ‘men’ because their finger
can squeeze the trigger’ of a gun …
on an unsuspecting animal whom
– they are confidant – cannot possibly
hurt them in return.
And there are more than a few women, now,
who pose for pictures with dead animals
because they are every bit as vicious and cowardly
as the brute creatures they imitate.
Cowards, neighbourhood thugs, and bullies
see their vicious cruelty as some form of
heroic ‘manliness’ –
harassing people in their home;
tormenting and disturbing the peace of folk
who want only to live in peace.
Others who do not physically harass
people around them, nevertheless
think nothing of inflicting degradation and ridicule
on the Internet.
If you want to see the savagery of vicious people,
look at comments on YouTube:
I believe with all my heart and mind,
that such vicious creatures
… would … physically kill people
IF they could ‘get away with it’.
I used to believe – as a boy,
that human beings who find enjoyment
in tormenting animals, children, and peaceful adults,
were the physical manifestations of demons
exercising their malice in the visible world.
The thing is …
I Still Do.